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Archive for September 13, 2012

Do You Know The Number 1 Reason People Divorce?


Admit it or not, the number one reason that marriages fail is money according to researchers. Other significant reasons include lack of communications, too much arguing, infidelity, marrying too young, unrealistic expectations, sex problems, and abuse. But do you realize that most of these reasons also involved with money problems in some extent? One may not tell the other where they their money, one may be arguing what they should or should not buy, one may expect him or she to make more money. It is very true that money can’t make you marriage life happier, but it is also true that without money your marriage will be miserable. But more importantly, the money problem here isn’t about lack of money, but how couples manage their money problems.

Tell your spouse before you buy
Isn’t it every man or woman should be doing? But apparently not everybody. My suggestion is that if you are going to spend more than $10 other than your regular grocery spending, call your husband or your wife and let he/she know since everyone has a cell phone now. it could be as small as kid toy or a few pairs of socks. Tell your spouse everything you are spending. If you forgot before checking out, at least you can tell him/her afterwards, sooner the better.

Spend money on your spouse
Don’t forget buy something special for your beloved one. When you bought a $400 dress, don’t forget to to buy him a $5 t-shirt. Or when husband bought himself the new iPad, don’t forget to get your wife a new lovely iPhone case. Gifting isn’t about the amount of money, but your heart.

Save money with your spouse
If you are used to collect coupons and use them regually in stores while your husband isn’t, that is read flag in your marriage. Both of you should have similar money spending habit.

Plan spending with your spouse
Plan your retirement goal together. Plan kids college fund together. Actually you should be planing everything about money together with your spouse, big or small.

Talk about spending with your spouse
There is no need to hide anything from your spouse. If you did, there got be something wrong. Tell him I bought a new panty today without thinking, tell her I bought every of my colleages a cup of coffee. You may not be agreeing with each other, but as long as you are frank to each other your marriage is safe.